Why Chivalry Is Dead From A Woman’s Perspective

I follow a shit ton of Feminist groups on Facebook (Surprise!), which is probably not the best idea on my part, because my news feed trends posts predominately pointing out instances in which the patriarchy effs up situations.

I was scrolling through my news feed during church today, and stumbled upon a post that linked me to this article: Why Chivalry Is Dead, From a Man’s Perspective. I’ve provided a link, for your convenience. Feel free to follow along with me as I dissect one fatuous author’s theory for the death of Chivalry.

The article begins innocently enough. The author opens his article by identifying the oh-so-modern “hook-up” culture that we singles are all too familiar with as a contributing factor to chivalry’s termination. I found myself nodding my head as I read this, as the author does make some good points.

I concur with his notion that PEOPLE (not just men), are really slacking when it comes to chivalrous acts, and that nowadays, single people tend to be more interested in a short-term hookup than an actual courtship. And the reason for that is technology. (i.e. TINDER) The author states, “Where did we lose the chivalrous touch? When did it become acceptable to just text a girl, inviting her to come bang? Well said, old chap.

The article continues, but his sound logic does not. This dunce wraps up his article by blaming women for the modern man’s unchivalrous behavior. He says that it’s the woman’s fault because our gender has become complacent with the “bare minimum” and that we’ve stopped demanding what we deserve. Scoff!

So not only is it my fault if a guy rapes me, (because, well, my skirt was a little short) but I am also to blame for his lack of desire to court me properly. Damn my gender’s “complacency.”

I don’t even know where to begin. I suppose a good place to start would be the 21st century definition of Chivalry. According to some dude from ChivalryToday.com (seems legit), Chivalry can be defined as “the choice to do the right things, for the right reasons, at the right times.” I like this definition because it completely takes gender out of the equation.

I am incapable of forcing a suitor to be a good guy for the sake of being a good guy. Complacent or not, I do not possess the power to alter one’s intentions and personal values. I have no influence on whether or not a guy wants to be chivalrous.

Not only does chivalry mean doing the right things, but doing them for the right reasons. If a person is chivalrous, it’s because he/she has made the conscious decision to do so, not because the person they are courting is demanding chivalry from them. Besides, if I suddenly start demanding that every boy I romantically encounter behave in a chivalrous manner, I’ll be labeled “high maintenance.”

Our little idiot closes his article by calling all women to “wise up and start asking for the things they deserve” (meaning have boys open doors and pull out chairs for us because apparently these behaviors are chivalrous even though they insult my ability to use my own limbs?)

His conclusion? “Until then, men are going to get away with putting in the bare minimum and receiving what we ultimately want anyway – sex. It’s pretty obvious that women own the cards, and when they start acting like it, they’ll finally start getting dinner from places that don’t deliver.”

And here, we face yet another double-standard. Ladies, you heard the guy. Let’s start demanding the things we deserve, dammit! And once we’ve done that, let’s see how high our chances are of earning date #2!

In all honesty, though, let’s face it. Chivalry is dead because people don’t care about anyone but themselves.

The end.

M.

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20 thoughts on “Why Chivalry Is Dead From A Woman’s Perspective

  1. When you look into context, you have to see that she means the contemporary meaning of “Chivarly”. “Gay” used to mean “happy”. Now it is a slang word for “Homosexual”. The meaning of words is constantly evolving, and you know damn well what she meant. Webster Dictionary also defines it as “an honorable and polite way of behaving especially toward women”. Literally copied word for word. It may actually refer to the problem women face “from douche bags guys” (check your plurals, there). Granted, women need to give men something WORTH respecting and show where the standard lies. It also means that men need to respect and also give women something WORTH trusting and admiring. It is an interplay which is currently at the least amount of value in the HISTORY of civilized humanity (and I mean collectively. There are always exceptions to respectful interplay in certain civilizations throughout history).

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  2. Haha dang Chivalry is not dead at all. Only what men and women has changed. If you want Prince Charming go freakin’ get him, if you want a man slut go and enjoy. In your paper you are fighting a battle between context and definition and if you’re looking to define Chivalry the word actually means, “the sum of the ideal qualifications of a knight, including courtesy, generosity, valor, and dexterity of arms.” Look it refers to knights during medieval times and not the problem women face from douche bags guys. Figure out what kind of guy you want and be that person that’s going to get that kind of guy. Good luck hunting!

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  3. Can’t argue that. Thats why when I’m with an attractive woman I like to expose my shortcomings early on so there’s no awkward disappointment later on.

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